Talking about the paradox of perfection and improvement. Loving ourselves to wholeness. Love as the path. Mara as teacher rather than foe or antagonist. Teaching us to love ever more deeply.

In this talk we explore the power of equanimity to help us remain steady and spacious in the face of life's ups and downs. Trusting, relaxing and letting go all help us to see we don't have to hold the challenges of life alone, we can open to the larger mystery holding us all. We also look at how to engage with the suffering and injustice of our world, to practice sacred criticism, and depolarizing ourselves and our communities. We take inspiration from the Civil Rights Movement and their practices of self-emptying and how we can give our whole hearts to the task and then let go of attachment to the outcome. Kaira Jewel ends by singing the poem Recommendation by Thich Nhat Hanh.

We begin with a song and for the first half hour Kaira Jewel gives a brief overview the Four Brahmaviharas followed by an introduction to the practice of metta: what it is, how it can transform our lives, what some of the challenges are and then how to practice with the categories and the phrases. Then in the second half hour Kaira Jewel leads a guided metta meditation offering metta to ourselves, our benefactor and a dear friend.

In this talk, we explore mindfulness of thoughts as part of the third foundation of mindfulness—learning to meet thoughts not as distractions or enemies, but as present-moment experiences to observe with curiosity and care. Through guided practice and teachings, we investigate the nature of thinking, including how to relate to repetitive or difficult thoughts with clarity and compassion. By developing this skill, we discover a deeper steadiness and freedom in the midst of the mind’s activity.

This meditation explores upekkhā, or equanimity—the deep steadiness of heart that meets life’s joys and sorrows with wisdom and care. Through reflections, guided phrases, and a progression of categories (from self, to loved one, neutral person, difficult person and finally all beings), we cultivate balance and spaciousness in the face of life’s ever-changing conditions. Rooted in the Brahmavihārā tradition, this practice invites us to rest in the truth that all beings are moving through causes and conditions beyond our control.