Ultimately, in our search behind appearances, we need to let go of "name and form" and become like a mirror which is contacting no image. In this emptiness, the mind's capacity to see -- to be aware -- shines unimpeded.
To believe that clinging is a requisite for engagement is like believing that the food needs to stick to the pan in order to cook. Yet sticking only leads to burning. Likewise with clinging: it only detracts from true intimacy with life.