The tendency is to conceive ourselves as being a separate entity; yet, we’re always in something. There is something around us without which we wouldn’t survive. Practice sensing into the ‘us-ness’, the sense of me and something else. Mindfulness of body and breathing support this practice.
Mettā, which is goodwill or benevolence, is something to practice frequently. It helps our perceptions become more kindly and giving, less critical and holding. Kindness begins by coming into the present moment – breathing, spreading, opening through the whole body. From this state practice referring to what arises with patience, compassion and gratitude.