Metta is love free from dependency on connection. Love explores family, service, intimacy, nature and creativity. It is a force for change in perception.
In order for metta to flow unobstructed, we need to be able to forgive—ourselves for ways we don't measure up to our high standards or unskillful actions, others for past hurts and life for the disappointments we experience. This talk explores these different levels of forgiveness.
What supports lovingkindness is the sincere caring we give in each moment as we say a metta phrase. What obstructs metta are its near and far enemies; affection with attachment and aversion such as sadness, fear, anger, or judgement.