When we simply pause instead of immediately filling up the space, we are called to meet, taste and endure the feeling of emptiness and deficiency. The gift of an authentic willingness to be present with the difficult, without moving beyond our window or capacity of presence, opens up real space and the the satisfying substantiality of the heart; objective compassion, joy and the pleasure of being. Compassion nourishes the attitude of "this too can be here", heals the split between head and heart, and supports us to be present in a robust way. Joy helps us orient inwards instead of externalizing satisfaction and meaning, until we wake up to the knowing that the deepest intimacy is presence.